Infidelity & Trust

Recovering From Infidelity

By Brianna Brunner, LCSWJanuary 15, 20253 Min Read

It is easy to judge someone who cheats without understanding that the disloyal behavior often has a root cause and is an attempt to meet a need that isn’t being met. Recovering from infidelity is not easy, but it is possible.

Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Caryl Rusbult, and Dr. Shirley Glass identified the steps that lead a person to have an affair as

Not feeling their partner is there for them
Avoiding conflict when it only leads to arguments instead of getting needs met
Maximizing negative interactions and minimizing positive experiences
Losing trust and fantasizing about an ideal partner
Feeling lonely, resentful, and turning towards others for intimacy.

Recovering from infidelity is possible

We believe that it is possible to recover from infidelity. We use the Gottman method to address hurt from both sides and recreate the sacred space of a trusting, loving, secure relationship.

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Couples Therapy Services is proudly based in New Jersey and offers therapy for young parents, blended families, LGBTQIA couples, and more.

At Couples Therapy Services, we can help you stop fighting, regroup, and change the path of your relationship. If you’re having problems with trust, intimacy, communication, general stress, work-life balance, judgment, or recovering from infidelity, it’s time to get help. Our trained couples therapists will give you the tools and support needed to re-establish trust, communicate effectively, and manage your emotions for the long term.

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Written By

Brianna Brunner, LCSW

Founder & Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Brianna is a Gottman-trained Licensed Clinical Social Worker and the founder of Couples Therapy Services. She has spent over a decade helping New Jersey couples rebuild trust and reconnect, and her insight has been featured in SELF and Wondermind.

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